By Dr. Ted
Although men may have the fantasy that women get breast implants to make them happy, they are wrong. Through the years, women have consistently told us that their partners love them exactly the way they are, and they are having surgery to make themselves look and feel better.
Recently, the husband of one of my patients wrote us a letter talking about the experience from his point of view, and he invited us to share it. We’re doing just that:
“My wife was unhappy with the size of her breasts for years, basically as long as I have known her; perhaps it’s been longer. I can say that I honestly didn’t understand it – I knew she was smaller than most women, but I didn’t care, I liked her how she was.
It was easy for me to imagine that it didn’t make any difference, because if I was happy, as her husband, with her look, then I just assumed everything was okay. She never complained, but she did mention it every so often. After 25 years, I still didn’t ‘get it,’ but knowing how important it was to her, I agreed to support her idea to get surgery.
One of the things I appreciated was that once we made the decision, she included me in the process. She let me help pick out the doctor and we spent a lot of time looking at pictures of breasts on the Internet. The ultimate decision was hers, and I wasn’t at her consultation, but by the time it occurred, she knew what I would like, too.
Within a month or so after surgery, I noticed a change in my wife. I don’t mean physical, that change was obvious, and even though I was happy before, I was certainly happy to have what felt like a different set of breasts – not better in my eyes, just different. The change I’m referring to is the change that happened deep inside her. She’s more confident. She carries herself differently, her attitude is different, and yes, quite honestly, the intimacy is better.
It’s about 4 months after the surgery and I can say that my wife and I are happier than we’ve ever been, and we had a good marriage before the surgery. If I were reading this, I might not believe it, but I can tell you that it is absolutely true.
So, with all this in mind, if I were to give advice to the partner of a potential patient, I’d say the following: If this is important to your significant other, support and embrace the change. Because the benefits of this surgery for us extended way beyond any cost of time, money and recovery.” – David W.
Are Implants Marital Assets? According to the Bismarck Tribune, when Erik and Traci Isaacson of North Dakota were going through a divorce in 2008, Erik demanded that the $5,500 he had spent on Traci’s breast implants be counted as marital assets, which would entitle him to additional property in the breakup. The lower court said his claim was “absolute nonsense.” Erik took his claim to the North Dakota Supreme Court, which ruled against him, too.